Defining a Relationship

Society has its norms, standards, rules, and labels it places on relationships, all of which are associated with certain connotations and overtones. But I don’t want any of these things to define my relationship with a girl. I want to be the one who determines where it goes and how it is defined; not other people! True, it is very difficult to resist the encroachments of social presuppositions and cultural expectations because the quirks and idiosyncrasies of our culture are imbedded in our worldview, but I refuse to be governed by trends and popular notions regarding love and relationships. I don’t care what happens in chick flicks or love stories; I will reject all buzzwords, clichés, and stereotypes. The girl and I alone are the authors and classifiers of our friendship together. But now I have to ask myself, why do I feel this way? Am I afraid of the commitment that comes with these things? Is that what this is about? Is that the “implied” notion that I am really trying to avoid – commitment? Perhaps the whole reason I formed this ideology is to escape this factor that surrounds the social implications of a relationship. Or maybe it’s some other factor. Or do I genuinely want a unique friendship with a girl, free of outside interference? I don’t know.