During my senior project I quickly learned that I had to learn the names, likes, and children of the women my team members were married to. This wasn't to establish good report with the team members; no, this was to establish good report with the wives. "Yes, yes, I see you're happily married. You're quite possessive of your husband. You love your family. I respect you, yadda yadda yadda." I had to earn an amount of trust that I wasn't going to be stealing their husbands. After all, I was going to be seeing their husbands on work days nearly almost more often then they did. Once I gained a little of that trust, there really were no problems whatsoever.
What drive me nuts though is the reverse. A situation where I'm not trying to work with a married man, but when I was friends with a formerly single guy. Why is it that so many fiancee's expect their fiance to forgo all former friendships with people of the feminie variety? It's simply quite annoying. Trust me, lady, if I really was going to poach your husband I would have done that before the exchange of rings. Really. He's not more attractive now simply because he's forbidden, rather, he's almost a better friend simply because there's no threat of "well, maybe in the future."
What is it about our culture that forbids friendship between men and women when one or both individuals are married?
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Well, perhaps the problem is that too many females have watched the movie When Harry Met Sally, and view it as a work of doctrinal genius? I believe there's a line on there that says men can't have a plutonic relationship with an attractive woman, yada yada yada... SO, maybe when these women (wives: a subset of that category) get their backs up around you, you could instead view it as a compliment because they obviously think of you as attractive enough to merit caution, rather than hideous and therefore not worth mentioning. Eh?
I just wanted to say that I read all of what you posted here and I think that you hit the nail right on the head. You are awesome and don't you ever let anyone tell you anything different. I just keep going over it in my head that they must think that we'd want to give up everything that we now have in order to be with someone who we obviously had not even occured to have any interest in to begin with. I mean really what makes their catch SOOOOO great that they would think that we would want to make the same mistake that they did. I mean do we want to clean his smelly clothes, deal with him when he's sick and being a baby, literally, or maybe we want to spend or lives wondering why he doesn't think that I am as attractive as the current football game he is watching. While you know that single guys have given you looks that make you know that if you were not suppose to be together that you would leave him wondering where you went during the commercials of the game. Please I am so much more than that. To all those women out there who are wondering if I am out there to take their man I say unto to you, keep wondering!!!
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